Finding yourself before you can find Mr. Perfect-for-you

Several comments from my very support friends inspired this post. "One of the best things we can do is figure out who we are as women first; then we will be able to find the perfect men who fit us individually." Another comment read, "most women don't have their own lives together enough to actually be capable of being and staying in a healthy relationship. You need to make yourself happy before you can make someone else happy." Both are quite profound statements from people just like you: young single women.

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Therefore ladies, if you want to be happy in a relationship with someone else, you need to be happy with who you are first, whether it is your body image or your personality. You need to learn to embrace who you are as a woman and realize that there is a person out there for you. If you have a little extra curves... maybe in a few wrong places then what Vogue would like, there is a man out there for you. I know, easier said than done. Trust me! I am a 21 year-old who has been struggling with her body image since she knew there was such an idea.

I will tell you one thing. If you do not know who you are or what you want out of life, find it first before you want to get into a serious relationship. Too many times have I seen very close friends and family members lose themselves in relationships because they did not know who they were as a person and they just adapted to what they thought their significant other wanted. No. That is not what a relationship is about. Although, I have never been in a serious relationship, I know what they are supposed to be, what they are supposed to look like. You both need to feel comfortable with who you are and who your partner is. You need to be able to accept them and most importantly yourself for who you are. Find that, then find Mr. Perfect-for-you. After all, you he can only be Mr. Perfect-for-you if you know who you are.

 

Also, one thing you want to make sure you have is a great support system, your friends and family. Not to get all sappy or anything but having people there for you for the fun times and the sad, is priceless. While having a man in your life can be fun, you'll need people there to either pick up the pieces or hold your bouquet. When you are finding yourself, you need to find your friends. After all, your bride's maids are a part of your wedding too! I know I have truly inspiring people in my life who I know will be there to buy me crackers and Gatorade when I am feeling sick.